Changing your self image after becoming taller and maximizing your life: Part one
Two years after going through LLS I am fully on the way in my journey of changing my self image after becoming taller. Before LLS I felt small, incomplete and not like an actual adult. On the streets, or in the shops or at any social event I was always the small guy. The short one. The little guy. I was always very conscious about always not only being the shortest male, but also often the shortest person. Period. After reaching 177cm (from a starting pint of 165cm), and after being able to walk more and more normal as time progressed this height dysphoria slowly started fading into the past. And more than two years post surgery, it is all but a distant memory. In the beginning I had to recalibrate my brain and senses, and did this by comparing my new height with other adults. All of a sudden (in the context of being short as an adult for almost 20 years) being normal height is kind of a mindfk! But after a few months to maybe half a year of this my brain was recalibrated and now I seldom think about my height when out and about.
At 177cm I am pretty much average in male height now, and much taller than the average women. So on the street, in the shops or at social gatherings I am longer the short guy. I am just a guy, which is pretty awesome. Now, for the first time in my life I actually feel like a real adult. This change came pretty much naturally and I didn't have to work for it. Part one of changing my self image is complete.
Changing your self image after becoming taller and maximising your life: Part two
The reasons stated above, were my primary reasons for doing LLS. It was pretty straight forward, I was short and the only way to over that was becoming taller. The problem was clear, and so was the solution. But in the years leading up to me getting LLS I read many articles, studies and videos about how being short affects your attraction with women. So as time passed, this also become another reason for getting this surgery. Some studies even showed that I may be able to increase my dating pool by as much as 5-6 fold. I mean, I was skeptical about seeing such an improvement. But sure such a scenarios was appealing. I went into the surgery telling my self that I would be satisfied with zero increase in female attraction, because to me it felt too good to be true. But also, it was not the primary reason for doing this, but it would be a nice bonus.
The first year or so after LLS I was pretty much on crutches and didn't attend many social gatherings outside of my nearest friend or family groups. I also didn't drink alcohol for whole year, and really didn't go out until about 16-17 months post surgery. The increase in female attention hit me pretty hard at first. The first two months of me starting to go out I was shocked over the attention I was suddenly getting from the opposite sex. I've written specific threads about this, so for more detailed information please read those. From the age of 12 until I was 35, I had gotten maybe a handful of compliments about my looks from strangers (women), and maybe ten in total not counting serious girlfriends. So I was in no way, shape or form used to getting much, if any attention from women. Going out I would usually be invisible.
All of this suddenly changed over what felt like over night. At first I thought this may just be a coincidence, then I thought it may just be a strange anomaly. But as the weeks went on the attention from women, the looks when out, the compliments from strangers (mostly women) never stopped. As the weeks became months, and months became almost a year, I have had to - like above recalibrate my brain. But this recalibration was and still is much harder. At first I didn't believe the compliments, but now I expect to at least get one once a week, because I've gotten 54 compliments about my looks in the last 46 weeks from strangers. Compliments like you're handsome, good looking, hot, beautiful, attractive and you look like a fk-boy. Some from women in conversation and others randomly on the street in broad daylight, or by passing women in bars and on the dance floor.
Before I never dared approaching a stranger at a bar, and the few times I did I was nervous and probably awkward as hell. After literally having approached 300+ women since last May (getting those compliments made me date to approach more and more women, and the more positive responses I got the more I continued doing it), I now walk up confidently and expect to get a positive response. I have so many positive response from women that it has completely changed the way see and perceive them. Before I though confidence was something you could get through believing in yourself, and that I had it. Now I understand that I was far from confident before, and true confidence comes from experiencing positive after positive encounter with women and other people, over weeks, over months, over years, over decades.
Just in the past 10-11 months I have in many way become a new, different and better person. More confident, more relaxed, more optimistic. I realise that I only have 10-11 months of this under my "belt", and that I still have a far way to go. There is much more improvement to achieve. It has taken me close to a year to realise and start believing that most women actually find me attractive, but some days I still don't believe it. Since last fall I've grown close to a friend of mine who has a long as I can remember been chick magnet. He is the most confident person I've ever met. Because he's gotten compliments from people and strangers since he was a kid, he truly believes it and it is an inherent part of his identity. That is also my goal, to one day truly believe what I now hear on a weekly basis. But undoing 25+ years of my old identity is easier said than done. When the world has treated you a certain way for decades, when most women have ignored you for decades, when most women have rejected you for decades, undoing those experiences takes time, it takes work, it takes energy and it takes will.
I want to maximise this procedure, this experience, this what does feel like a second change at life. It feels like I've won the lottery, but at the same time it feels like a dream that I can wake up from at any moment. Going in to this procedure, I could never have imagined how becoming taller would change my life so much when it comes to women. I truly write down every compliment and positive encounter, because it still is unbelievable. I am now in my late 30s and am now dating three beautiful women in their mid to late 20s. Never ever thought I was gonna do that at this age. Part two of changing my self image will continue into the unforeseen future.
//Stand taller
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