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Uppland

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Parents are concerned about the surgery, what should I tell them?
« on: September 21, 2015, 09:04:14 PM »

As some of you know I depend on my folks to fund this whole project and they seem to consider the idea. However they are both very concerned about the risks involved, what do you think is the best way to explain to them?
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Re: Parents are concerned about the surgery, what should I tell them?
« Reply #1 on: September 21, 2015, 09:35:05 PM »

I found what worked best for me is explaining what's going on with my body during the process and describing how the surgery is actually performed (the basic process of the procedure, anyway). When I described the process in that way it helped my relatives feel more at ease about it. Their only idea about it beforehand was that I was getting my bones broken, legs sawed in half, and stretched apart like people in a medieval torture device. My mom still ended up freaking out a few hours before my surgery started, but talking to Dr Parihar calmed her down since he reassured her that I was in good hands.
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Initial height: 164 cm / ~5'5" (Surgery on 6/25/2014)
Current height: 170 cm / 5'7" (Frames removed 6/29/2015)
External Tibia lengthening performed by Dr Mangal Parihar in Mumbai, India.
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Re: Parents are concerned about the surgery, what should I tell them?
« Reply #2 on: September 21, 2015, 09:36:14 PM »

As some of you know I depend on my folks to fund this whole project and they seem to consider the idea. However they are both very concerned about the risks involved, what do you think is the best way to explain to them?

explain to them that you will be happier after this. they will love it to see you happier
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Re: Parents are concerned about the surgery, what should I tell them?
« Reply #3 on: September 21, 2015, 09:37:43 PM »

I found what worked best for me is explaining the process of what's actually going on with my body during the process and describing how the surgery is actually performed (the basic process of the procedure, anyway). When I described the process in that way it helped my relatives feel more at ease about it. Their only idea about it beforehand was that I was getting my bones broken, legs sawed in half, and stretched apart like people in a medieval torture device. My mom still ended up freaking out a few hours before my surgery started, but talking to Dr Parihar calmed her down since he reassured her that I was in good hands.

what about your physical situation. can you still run etc.
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Re: Parents are concerned about the surgery, what should I tell them?
« Reply #4 on: September 21, 2015, 09:43:19 PM »

I haven't tried running yet because I want to be sure I won't re-fracture a bone due to impact. Going to get another x-ray in a while and discuss things with the ortho about when I should be able to get back to running safely.
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Initial height: 164 cm / ~5'5" (Surgery on 6/25/2014)
Current height: 170 cm / 5'7" (Frames removed 6/29/2015)
External Tibia lengthening performed by Dr Mangal Parihar in Mumbai, India.
My Cosmetic Leg Lengthening Experience

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Re: Parents are concerned about the surgery, what should I tell them?
« Reply #5 on: September 21, 2015, 09:50:21 PM »

I haven't tried running yet because I want to be sure I won't re-fracture a bone due to impact. Going to get another x-ray in a while and discuss things with the ortho about when I should be able to get back to running safely.

okay thats a good idea, but if everything goes well you must be able to play sports like anyone else? i ask this because i wanna do 8cm on my tibs one day because of my short knee height (50 cm) and im 5'8 (173 cm) even if i wear 3,5 inch elevator shoes while putting longer trousers over it my tibs still look short. i know 8cm is pretty much. thats why im asking you.
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Re: Parents are concerned about the surgery, what should I tell them?
« Reply #6 on: September 21, 2015, 10:31:58 PM »

Thanks Kilo

How long should I tell them it's going to take?

I'll be doing internal femurs with Guichet, 5CM is my goal.
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Re: Parents are concerned about the surgery, what should I tell them?
« Reply #7 on: September 21, 2015, 10:50:58 PM »

Thanks Kilo

How long should I tell them it's going to take?

I'll be doing internal femurs with Guichet, 5CM is my goal.

I think that takes around a month, barring complications.
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Re: Parents are concerned about the surgery, what should I tell them?
« Reply #8 on: September 21, 2015, 11:59:50 PM »

I would go for 6CM. It's still very safe given your surgeon of choice and starting height. It wouldn't significantly alter your proportions compared to 5 CM. As you said yourself, this may very well be the last chance you receive to get taller in your lifetime. Everyone notices height but few scrutinize proportions the way we do. Femur lengthening shows much less than tibia lengthening. If it were me, I'd do 6 CM.
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Re: Parents are concerned about the surgery, what should I tell them?
« Reply #9 on: September 22, 2015, 12:26:09 AM »

I would go for 6CM. It's still very safe given your surgeon of choice and starting height. It wouldn't significantly alter your proportions compared to 5 CM. As you said yourself, this may very well be the last chance you receive to get taller in your lifetime. Everyone notices height but few scrutinize proportions the way we do. Femur lengthening shows much less than tibia lengthening. If it were me, I'd do 6 CM.

Perhaps but 5CM is the least I want to get out of it, 6CM is the most.

It would make my legs very long though, my inseam to height ratio would pass 48%. It looks pretty good barefoot but it's too much in 3CM shoes.
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Re: Parents are concerned about the surgery, what should I tell them?
« Reply #10 on: September 22, 2015, 12:57:24 AM »

You could show them Guichet video, maybe it will put them at ease if they see the doctor.

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Re: Parents are concerned about the surgery, what should I tell them?
« Reply #11 on: September 22, 2015, 01:14:27 AM »

Good call G-man, I need to show them it's legit and not some russian science experiment.
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Re: Parents are concerned about the surgery, what should I tell them?
« Reply #12 on: September 22, 2015, 03:53:40 AM »

Good call G-man, I need to show them it's legit and not some russian science experiment.

Hell, you could even show them this forum. Why not?
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