Hey do you mind elaborating in this:
Keeping it hidden is currently the single main drawback stopping me grim doing LL. I want there to be 0% chance of it being detected. Don’t ask why, it’s just what it is. I have an alibi etc, it’s just the return to the family home that is nauseating. If I could find a way to do it with 0 chance of detection I would be over the moon, filled with joy. Like you, I have a lot of anxiety about this point leading up to my decision. If family found out and they were accepting of it, this still wouldn’t be a good outcome for me. I just don’t want them to know at all.
I find your words, the ones I quoted above, very comforting. However I fear that that’s all they might be, words of comfort, not actually how I should rationally think. If what you say is true that’d be great. But I wear even 4cm lifts and I feel taller standing next to my fridge, standing in my bathroom, reaching for the tv remote. I just imagine going for 6 cm (the maximum possible amount I would consider lengthening and the absolute dream best case scenario).... not a chance. I wonder whether it is just tricks playing on my mind... it seems to good to be true to be able to get away with it. The perfect heist.
I understand your concern. I felt the same way leading up to my procedure- I spent countless hours and many sleepless nights worrying, stressing and over analyzing how I would manage and escape detection.
Leading up to my operation I wore shoe lifts that were just under 2 inches. So the net effect of LL, after doing the full 8 cm, was roughly 1.5 inches in additional height.
The reality is people will notice something different about you. In my case, even at just 1.5 inches increase net of my shoe lifts there were some people who still noticed. You can't control that and you will need to accept this. However you can control how you react and respond to their observations and curiosity.
I would say roughly 50% of people have noticed and explictly said that I look taller/skinnier/different. I'd imagine more people registered something different about me internally but did not vocalize the difference or just dismissed it as something odd about me.
It's important to emphasize that someone noticing you taller is very different than someone accusing you of getting cosmentic LL surgery to get taller. Everyone I've met since doing LL were none the wiser to a surgery being involved, even if they did notice me being taller.
What you will realize is even though LL and your height change are at the forefront of your mind, the same isn't true for those around you, even those who do register a change in height. Because LL is not mainstream peoples minds will automatically brush it away, thinking they are misremembering, you somehow grew, your posture got better, or ironically, even started wearing lifts. Remember, you are your own worst critic, people don't actually care or think about you as much as you think they do.
My advice is to just own it mentally. Don't go into each interaction with a defensive mindset. If someone mentions you growing, a confident/ happy "Oh yeah? Can't complain about that" response is a lot better than being hesitant and bashful. If they dig deeper, just look at them like they're crazy, they'll just as likely start to think that they may have gotten shorter. If they keep pushing, you can say you've been working on posture. As long as you own it mentally and maintain a confident, succinct position around any kind of comments, you'll be just fine.
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Topic: Diary: Stryde Femurs with Dr. Paley September 2019 (Read 22022 times)